Modern Motherhood [№17]: Cassie Traasdahl
Posted: Aug 01 2015
How did you feel the first time you were on your own with your baby?
When I was pregnant I was told over and over that I was going to need SO much help, and even now when people find out I have twins, they ask if I have a lot of help. I do, and I took advantage of that for the first couple weeks while I was still recovering. When I decided I was going to tackle that first day by myself with two little two week old babies, I got a lot of texts asking how things were going and if I was doing okay. And I was! It felt so natural for me and while it wasn't necessarily easy, it was just what I needed to reassure me that I could totally do this twin mama thing.
In what ways are you proud of yourself as a new mother?
Breastfeeding! The thought of breastfeeding one baby was totally intimidating to me, but two?! I had no idea how I was going to do that, but I love it so much more than I thought I would. We're three months in now and going strong!
What is the best piece of advice you could give to someone who is about to have their first child?
Don't listen to any advice. Kidding! Kind of. But really, you do you! There is so much information out there on how to raise a baby, and people really love to give advice. And while it's probably all great information, your baby is not being raised by books, the internet or other people. Having two at a time, I can attest to just how different every baby is. So if something you read in a book doesn't work for you, that's okay! You know your baby better than anyone. Trust your mama instincts.
What is your biggest fear as a mother?
I think its the feeling of inadequacy. Always wondering, am I doing this right? Do they know how much they're loved? Do I hold them enough? Are they each getting enough one-on-one time with me? Was on I my phone too much today? With social media its so easy to play the comparison game and feel like you're not doing enough. I think its so important to remember that we're all just doing the best we can, and that means something different to everyone. My best and someone else's best are not the same, and that's okay. It's what makes this so great! At the end of the day, we as mothers have the same goal- to have happy, healthy kids. However we choose to accomplish that doesn't matter, just that we try our best to get there.
I had a planned c-section so it was kind of weird knowing exactly when it was going to happen, but also having no idea what to expect still since these are my first babies. They took me into the OR and brought my husband in after I was all set up. Leighton came out first and Brady was about a minute behind her. My husband went and cut both cords and they cleaned the babies off and brought them over for me to see. (I didn’t get to hold them until I was in the recovery room.) Everything happened so fast! We spent some time together as our little family of four before anyone came in, and it was the greatest feeling to be there with my husband and our two babies fresh from heaven.